Who better to take advice from regarding warning signs that your man is a narcissist [or sociopath] than other women who have gone through it. We asked our Ex-Wives Undercover listeners what the top things their ex’s have said or done that most definitely should be a warning for you to RUN and don’t look back.

WARNING SIGNS IN THE BEGINNING

1. They will love bomb the hell out of you early on in the relationship – saying the same nondescript, generic compliments like ‘you’re so amazing’ and ‘I’ve never felt this way before with anyone else.’
2. They talk about how much money they have … and often.
3. They say ‘I love you’ and talk about marriage and having kids super early in the relationship – putting a ring on it, then literally years go by and no wedding plans. OR, they might propose early in the relationship and usually in a very public setting and might even try to move themselves in after only a few weeks of dating.
4. Magically, every person they have ever dated and/or married is a “psycho,” crazy and obsessed. Or, the girls they are cheating with are obsessed with them or won’t leave them alone.

WARNING SIGNS DURING THE RELATIONSHIP

1. There is always an illness and emergencies – a family member is in trouble, they have an illness of some kind [cancer] or someone close to them has been in a serious accident.
2. Pretending to go to work when they don’t really have a job [or a much different job than they say]. Or, they might say that they’re always ‘on-call’ so he can be needed at work anytime of the day and night.
3. They tell others lies about you, and to you about others to isolate you. This fills your life with their drama so you’re too exhausted to realize that you’re progressively more and more alone.
4. Incredibly jealous of you and your accomplishments. Everything is a competition and they must win and often times they also need to be the “hero” in every situation.
5. They want to control where you go, what you do, and what you spend money on.. meanwhile they can do whatever they want.
6. Act like victims of situations. And, when they’re paying the consequences of their actions, somehow it’s our fault.
7. Always gaslighting you and deflecting – i.e., ‘you’re so sensitive’ or ‘it’s a joke’ and ‘I don’t have time for this.’
8. They accuse you of what they’re planning to do or have already done. “You’re cheating on me!” when they are the unsafe cheaters threatening your life.
9. Will say and do anything to get what they want with no remorse. Their actions never match their words.
10. The ones that are religious use the Bible as a weapon. Preaching forgiveness of every wrong thing they do, while telling you, you would be going against God if you don’t give him another chance again …and again.
11. Blaming everything on other people – ‘I swear it’s my buddy’s burner phone, not mine!’

WARNING SIGNS AFTER YOU LEAVE

1. Believe they’re above the law and do stuff like stalk and track you with devices! They also demand exemptions/ exceptions or the that rules be bent to avoid accountability.
2. Surround themselves with people who think they’re kind and believe their bullshit, so when they get called out for it they can paint themselves as the victim.
3. Threatening suicide
4. Ignore and neglect the kids and then say you are a bad mom and are keeping the kids from them so they can file false CPS calls against you.